Sunday, December 20, 2009

Kahwin.

"Komeng jom kahwin mase 4th yr nanti"

"haa? tak de keje aku, bapak awal woo"

"Lepakla meng, standard la tu"

"banyak la koo.."


My pal, Luqman, he was kinda influencing me to 'kahwin awal' during the conversation. But I just came up with excuses ignoring his questions. yeah, i know he was just like 'main-main' at that time. So, I pun act like being stupid jugak jela. erghh. no point to talk about it right now.

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Hey guys, you know what, you guys should be thankful to Luqman because he gave me an idea to write this time post. I mean, It's been a long long time i didn't update my blog.

This time, I would like to write about 'kahwin'.

'Kahwin'?
Marriage?
huh?
who the hell are you talk about this topic huh?

fine..fine..finee.. I know la i'm just a 19 year-old who has just started to know the outside world.
but i think, I won't bother anyone in this matter. I just want to give my opinions. small opinion for a big thing. Am I for real?


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I've been studying in Irbid since 3 months ago. What can I say is, I'm really grateful to have a wonderful islamic environment over here. Of course la weh, here we have many ustazs and ustazahs who really play their role in keeping the bi'ah. All Praise to the Almighty.

Lately, marriage isn't a big issue in Irbid. I can see some, not some, but many of my seniors who already have gone through it. So far, they seems to enjoy for what they have right now. Lucky them!

Yeahh.. Yeah.. Yeahh..
I know marriage is a very wonderful thing in human life. Allah provides marriage for human beings so that they could stay away from zina. I don't want to oppose the quran and assunnah nor create a new controversial fatwa about this topic. Come onla. I pun nak kahwin jugak!

Okay guys, let me re-state again my intention;

I JUST WANT TO SHARING OPINIONS JE LA WEH!

mafhum? mashii? okayy. good. let's go further.

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when people talk about marriage, I have 4 big things that they usually said it to me. which are:-


1.

"Nanti balik Malaysia Jangan lupe bawak minah arab sorang"

hahaa. senang nye cakap. Najib+ Minah Arab= reality? I don't think so.
People keep on asking me,
"weh, perempuan arab hot enn?"
yeah. that's right.it's undeniable yet they're extremly hot.
But do I look 'layak' for them?
I mean, in every aspects,
they're too hot for me, aren't they?
Plus, their 'mahar' is bloody expensive.
where can i get the money?
duit scholar ade? no way man.
my scholars pun couldn't afford them.
-_-"


2.
"Mama and Babah nak you belajar dulu sampai habes, kerja, dah stable, baru kahwin"


duhh, even my parents pun don't give me the green light for kahwin during study. Meaning that, i couldn't bring a new famly mmbr in a short time. i've to wait for sometims la agaknya.
"Najib, good boyy!"
aiwahh, i listen to them. Sami'tu wa Ato'tu. I respect with their stands. I know they know more than what i know. So, let they decide for me *for the time being je la*. Maybe, they don't want me to get burden by the responsblties.*cewahh, poyoonyaa!*
yet, i'm just a half-corn aged. I don't think that I can be the best husband and daddy right now.


3.
"eh najib, duit scholars kang bnyakk!"

exactly, I agree with this statement. Let's say if I put my budget around 150JD per month for my wedding. And I want to get wed at my fourth year of study. So, the calculations should be like this, i think:-

1month=150JD
150JD= RM 750
4years= 48 months
RM750x 48 months= RM36,000.00

Wow! quite huge isn't it? I think It's fair enough for a student like us to get married with that such amount of budget. Pndai-Pandaila mintak mak ayah kalau tak ckup *senang cakppp!.perghh*

nope .. nopee.. nopee..
I don't want to spend my scholarships for my wedding. Oh mann, i can do a lot of things with RM36,000.00. I can cruise around the world with those money, of course!. yet, it is much much easier to move alone with your friends. You are freeman!

Remember dude, 'stay single is a key to mingle'

4.
"girlfriend takde, dh fikir nk kahwinn.ishh"

haa? i'm totally disagree with this ayat. To me, that is such a ridicolous mentality nowadays. I don't think that having a girlfriend ( Awek la in real context) in early stage will end up being your wife one day (dlm mse yg lame ). Honestly, i'm happy to be single. I don't think that I should have someone right now as for the sake of booking her for my future.
*lepak2 sudehh*
In myself, I believe with Allah's faith. If i'll be a great guy, i'll get a great lady. InsyaAllah. That's what Allah promise in His Holybook.
All things that i've to do is, be patience, and never give up on praying for the best of it.
When the time has came, nothing can't stop it without His faith.


"Kun Fayakun"


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Though i'm a half-corn aged. I'm not afraid to impress my opinion in this such things. Remember, people do change everyday. The same goes to their stands. So, never take it too seriously with what I've stated above. I'm afraid if my words speak louder than my action. Who knows? i pun manusia biasa.

Last but not least, the best always comes from Allah and the worst comes from myself, the slave of Allah.

That's all.

Wallahu'alam.



p/s: my brother n sister pun tak kahwin lagi.
I nak kahwin?
-_-"

7 comments:

awe said...

najib advaaaaaaaaaaaaaaance!
haha

SADIS said...

kawen jelaa..
ckp byk pulak.

munir said...

sedara..allah yuhassil~tbe

W M Najib said...

awe: haha. takdela. kdngkala je. :P
sadis: sabaq la. kau la kwen dlu!
munir: :)

amrah5774 said...

nice post. topik kahwin awal ni mmg topik paling hot utk student2 overseas ni. sedikit perkongsian daripada student korea berkaitan dengan kahwin muda http://www.napirago.com/2009/12/18/kahwin-awal-yang-berkat-jadi-mudarat/

furqon said...

ape lak advance....standard laaa....

Ate3_y said...

hahaa...wah..seriyes matang post nih..~ keep it real!